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As this site deals with some horrible issues, boundaries are crucial for the well being of all.

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Boundary 1 — Safety and Confidentiality
✅ What’s OK: Respect that I write under a pseudonym for protection.
❌ What’s NOT OK: Attempts to unmask me, cross-reference details, or connect my writing to my real-world identity.

I will respect your right to confidentiality, please respect mine.

Boundary 2— Commenting
✅ What’s OK: Respectful, supportive comments. Reading quietly without ever commenting (though a simple emoji is always welcome and will be met with one in kind). Respectful disagreement or nuance.
❌ What’s NOT OK: Disrespect of any kind. Emojis meant to mock or ridicule. Denial of truth. Such comments will not be approved, and repeat offenders will be blocked and reported without warning.

Boundary 3 — Direct Messaging
✅ What’s OK: A short message to offer thanks, support, or ask a simple question if you feel unable to in the comments.
❌ What’s NOT OK: Attempts to start a “friendship” in order to gain identifying information, or messaging out of curiosity about “the freak show.” Repeated messages asking for ongoing emotional support. I say this with compassion: I understand pain, but I cannot hold you in the way you deserve. I would only end up letting you down. If you need that depth of support, please seek therapy, it was the best thing I ever did for myself.

Boundary 4 — Self-Care
✅ What’s OK: Reading at your own pace, taking breaks, and stepping away when needed. Leaving altogether and not coming back. I love that you are here, but you are not obliged to follow this blog if it is too upsetting.
❌ What’s NOT OK: Making me responsible for your emotional reactions. Ignoring your own limits. These posts may stir difficult feelings; they are not written to retraumatize or replace professional support. Please ground yourself, tend to your needs, and return only if and when it feels safe.

Please note I DO NOT put trigger warnings on my posts. This is it.

Boundary 5 — Sharing Content
✅ It’s OK to share links to posts, quote short excerpts with credit, or recommend the blog to others.
❌ It’s not OK to copy whole posts, repost without credit, or use my words for analysis/discussion in other spaces without permission.

Boundary 6 — Professional Use
✅ Therapists, students, or researchers may read here to learn more about lived experience.
❌ This blog is not a research project. Please don’t quote me in academic work, training, or therapy practice without asking first. I will more than likely give consent, but please provide a brief for me to look at and think carefully about the limits of confidentiality.

Boundary 7 — Advice
✅ Supportive encouragement or sharing your own experience if relevant. If you are religious, I am happy to be told you are praying for me. That I receive as care in the way that feels right to you.
❌ Unsolicited “fixes,” religious advice, spam or prescriptive “you should…” (unless explicitly asked for) comments. This is a lived story, not a request for solutions. Again, these comments will not be published and depending on the severity, may result in being blocked.

Boundary 8 — Response Time
I may not reply to comments or messages quickly (or at all). Silence from me doesn’t mean your words weren’t received with care.

Boundary 9 — Crisis & Safeguarding
This blog cannot offer crisis support. If you’re in immediate danger or at risk, please contact local emergency services or a trusted crisis line in your area.

UK hotline numbers can be found in the footer.

Stay safe everyone x